Showing posts with label human trafficking/fair trade. Show all posts
Showing posts with label human trafficking/fair trade. Show all posts

January 29, 2016

Hope Rising Winter Quarter Newsletter

A Word from Katie Rhodes
Katie Rhodes
Hope Rising Board Member
My two favorite Christmas carols are "What Child is This?" and "Come, O Come, Emmanuel." Both are wistful tunes transitioning into the triumphant tone of the Christmas miracle-that God would come dwell with humankind. The Message puts it this way: "The Word became flesh and blood, and moved into the neighborhood. We saw the glory with our own eyes,the one-of-a-kind glory, like Father, like Son, generous inside and out, true from start to finish." (John 1:14) The miracle of Christmas is that God desires relationship with people. Relationships are central to the Christian faith. Indeed, although many people view the Bible as a rule book, it can also be viewed as a relationship manual, filled with guidelines on how to live in right relationship with each other.
As an anti-trafficking advocate, I am often surprised and disappointed by how often people want to separate relationships from their response to trafficking. People ask me: "What can I do?" and less frequently "How can I give?" Doing and giving are absolutely essential in the fight against human trafficking. Yet, we cannot divorce our doing and giving from our being. Traffickers intentionally target victims who do not have adequate support. They look for people who display pain and loneliness. We may picture these victims as being recruited in a developing country, smuggled into the United States, and tricked into a trafficking situation. This does happen. Yet, the majority of trafficking victims in the United States are United States citizens who are being trafficked by other citizens. In many cases these are children. A theme emerges from their stories of exploitation-a theme of broken relationships. Oftentimes, these children are recruited from broken homes. Many-perhaps even most depending on which statistic you believe-were involved in the child welfare system. Many were sexually abused as children. Most do not trust adults or feel safe in their surroundings. Some come from good homes and are simply searching for adventure and romance as they reach their teenage years. The overwhelming majority of domestic trafficking victims are recruited into their trafficking situation. That recruitment takes the form of relationship. The 14-year-old girl who was molested by her uncle at age 12 posts online that she feels ugly and worthless. A man responds that she is more beautiful than she realizes, and they begin to chat. A 15-year-old girl runs away from her group home because she's been on her own in every sense that counted since age 10, and she doesn't want these strangers telling her what to do. Homeless, she meets a man on the street who offers her a place to stay. You see, most victims are looking for love.
When we realize that traffickers are intentionally preying on our least loved, it is up to us to reach those children and adults first. Prevention strategies should absolutely include education in schools, awareness campaigns, and enhanced legislation. However, these will not end the cycle of abuse. Relationship will end the cycle. Mentoring of vulnerable youth is an essential prevention strategy. Big Brothers and Big Sisters, CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate), and other mentoring programs are vital anti-trafficking programs. Similarly, restoration and healing efforts should include housing, legal assistance, therapy, etc. However, healthy relationship is perhaps the most important component in healing for trafficking survivors. Most survivors do not have people in their lives who are not paid to be there. Law enforcement, social workers, legal advocates, etc. - as caring and competent as these people are, they usually leave when their assignment with the survivor ends. Thus, friendship and mentoring become paramount to the support circle of the survivor. One survivor told me, "It can be days before my phone rings." No wonder many survivors are tempted to return to their abuser. Even though that person attempts to control them completely, many survivors mistake that intensity for the intimacy they crave.
So this holiday season, please take the time to reach out to the vulnerable people in your life. Let them know they are remembered and valued. Give them your time and attention. This is prevention. This is restoration. This is relationship.
Katie Rhodes is a board member of Hope Rising Ministries and the Local Programs Director for Forever Found, a nonprofit in Ventura County working for the prevention, rescue, and restoration of child trafficking victims. Forever Found has recently launched a mentoring program for local survivors. You can find out more information by emailingkatie@foreverfound.org.
Katie Rhodes 
Board Member, Hope Rising Ministries
www.hoperisingministries.org

August 25, 2015

Love Heals



Love Heals. Who can argue with that motto? Thistle Farms is a social enterprise and growing community of women in Tennessee who have come out of trafficking and prostitution and are learning that love does, indeed, heal. The women are given a safe home and taught job skills through the expansive undertaking of running Thistle Farms and creating their products literally from the ground up. (Best. Chapsticks. Ever.) It's an organization that is easy to get behind because:

1.) Their mission makes the world a better place. 
2.) Their products are all-natural and quality.
3.) My spouse actually admits* that he likes their chapsticks and candles better than the drugstore variety.

*To me. In private. Now indirectly on the internet.

I've been following them and buying their products for a few years now, and this year I have chosen Thistle Farms as the charity I am supporting in lieu of birthday presents. So...choose your own adventure.

If you were thinking of buying me a birthday present, go to Page 124.



If you were not thinking of buying me a birthday present, go to Page 27.





Page 124
You go to the Thistle Farms website. You're immediately taken with their clever lavender colored thistle motif. You become distracted by their products. If you decide to by a little something for yourself, go to page 34. If you decide to buy a little something for me, go to page 58. If you decide not to buy anything, go to page 72.

Page 27
You're kinda appalled that anyone would be so gauche as to practically beg for a birthday present, but this social enterprise concept intrigues you, so you decide to go to the Thistle Farms website anyway. You're immediately taken with their clever lavender colored thistle motif. You become distracted by their products. If you decide to by a little something for yourself, go to page 34. If you decide to buy a little something for me, go to page 58. If you decide not to buy anything, go to page 72.

Page 34
You buy a lemon verbena candle and a lip smoothie. Your package arrives in the mail. Soon, your lips grin and gleam. There is a gentle flicker in your living room and clean fragrance drifts around the corners. These scents were hand grown! you muse. Gratefully, you clean your kitchen and kiss your kid and drink an extra glass of water. It's been a good day.

Page 58
Whoo hoo! Score! Congratulations! You receive one hand-written thank you note and treasures in heaven.

Page 72
No curses are called upon your head. No dredged up debts are invoked. You live happily ever after until Christmas time when you are trying to figure out what the heck to get your Aunt Myrtle.


Thistle Farms / Shared Trade Marketplace

May 31, 2015

Human Trafficking in Ventura County

Here is a three part series put out by the Acorn. Wish they had mentioned our founder, Shannon Sergey!

Part 1
Part 2 (Featuring me!)
Part 3

May 22, 2015

Hope Rising Ministries

In addition to my anti-trafficking work through Forever Found, I am very proud to be on the board of Hope Rising Ministries, a faith-based nonprofit headquartered in Texas that is likewise dedicated to ending human trafficking. Hope Rising's main project at the moment is the establishment of a safe aftercare home on a ranch in Texas for American girls who have survived sex trafficking. The property has been purchased, and we are raising funds for the buildings and proper licensing. I've visited the ranch and felt my soul relax and expand watching the horses cavorting in the sunset. Our equine therapy program is already up and running serving survivors who are housed elsewhere, and we're seeing definite results in girls opening up and learning to trust and rising to the responsibility of proper horse care.

One of the main reasons I have confidence and commitment to Hope Rising Ministries is my friendship with Sherri Clement, our founder. I attended a Hope Rising fundraiser in Santa Paula several years ago and heard Sherri speak about her outreach to women in the sex industry. Over the next few months I was pretty busy with work but felt as though God was telling me to get in touch with Sherri. After (finally) contacting her, I found out that she had kept several business cards from the fundraiser and prayed over connecting with those people. Of course, one of the business cards was mine. I ended up volunteering for Hope Rising for about a year. Sherri and I both became certified as Hands that Heal trainers, a faith based training for aftercare providers. After putting on a four day training in Houston together, Sherri and I traveled to Thailand to train staff at two aftercare homes for child trafficking victims. 


Just arrived in the Bangkok airport via Korea - legit Thai ice tea!

Getting a fish pedicure in Chiang Mai

A lifelong dream!

Being unexpectedly hatted + hugged by an elephant
(As you can see, I am ecstatic!)


We had a lot of fun adventures but also saw some heartbreak in Thailand and on an unexpected jaunt across the border to Burma. We tried not to take too many pictures of the kids in the aftercare homes to respect their privacy.

Burmese immigrants living in a dump in Mae Sot, Thailand

Home in the dump

Literally walking over the border into Burma

Burmese gas station

Unless you're CIA trained, it's pretty hard to hide who you really are after 27-hour transcontinental trips, strange diets, shifting schedules, and dramatic stories of healing and heartbreak. Sherri has one of the kindest and most generous hearts I have ever had the pleasure to encounter. She asks Jesus to change and grow her and she leans into heartache to offer healing. Plus, she was brave enough to venture into Burma! It's pretty neat to be able to see someone's character in such an unusual setting, and I'm glad that she is the leader of Hope Rising.

You can find out more about Hope Rising Ministries through our website and also through their Facebook page, which I help to propagate. If your heart is to support equine therapy or an aftercare home for American children, this is definitely a good investment for your donation.

May 1, 2015

People for Sale and Harm at Home

What is human trafficking?
Where is it happening?
Who are the victims?
Who are the bad guys?
What can I do to help?

Forever Found has recently launched our two free trainings on human trafficking: People for Sale (Human Trafficking 101) and Harm at Home (Commercial Sexual Exploitation in California). I have developed both of these trainings. The distinction is that People for Sale covers all types of trafficking both internationally and domestically whereas Harm at Home focuses on sex trafficking in California. They are excellent for anyone wanting to learn more about trafficking and especially for anyone in social services, law enforcement, or children's programs. So far we have completed four trainings and are looking for more hosts. We are receiving positive responses in person and on our surveys. If you are interested in hosting one in Ventura County, let me know! Here is an article from The Acorn talking more about our nonprofit: "No Longer Alone."









Pictures courtesy of Forever Found

April 24, 2015

Life in the fast lane

This blog has declined in output ever since I ...

Married this guy
Started grad school for social work
Started working at Forever Found

My new series of blog posts will focus less on musings and more on the projects and lessons from these pursuits.


February 16, 2015

A Feminist Critique of Grand Theft Auto V

 A Feminist Critique of Grand Theft Auto V
Grand Theft Auto V, produced by Rockstar Games, is the most recent iteration of the most popular video game series in the world, earning $1 billon within a mere three days of its release in 2013. It has been universally lauded by game critics according to the criteria of their industry (Metacritic, 2013). Yet, even a cursory examination of the game from a feminist perspective reveals deeply troubling content promoting sexism, misogyny, and patriarchy.
Promoting and Upholding Negative Dominant Narratives
Much debate currently exists as to the definition of “feminism.” The author of this paper agrees with the perspective of activist bell hooks who contends: “Feminism is a struggle to end sexist oppression. Its aim is not to benefit solely any specific group of women, any particular race or class of women. It does not privilege women over men” (2013, p. 339). Sexist oppression permeates all layers and levels of Grand Theft Auto V; a complete listing of all examples would exceed the target length of this paper. In summary, the game promotes sexist oppression through the choices it gives to its players, narrow and overly sexualized depictions of female characters, and content such as advertising and talk shows that present women primarily as sexual objects.
The first evidence of oppression is the lack of “playable” female characters. Players can choose one of three male characters as the main protagonist. One of those three is a former pimp (Feminstborgia, 2014). The second level of oppression is the depiction of the few female characters as highly sexualized beings with little to no agency. As one female reviewer for a prominent gamer website summarized:
it’s deeply frustrating that, while its central and supporting male characters are flawed and complex characters, with a few extremely minor exceptions …, GTA V has little room for women except to portray them as strippers, prostitutes, long-suffering wives, humorless girlfriends and goofy, new-age feminists we’re meant to laugh at (Petit, 2013).
It is worthwhile to note that although the reviewer gave the game an overall 9 points out of a total 10, male fans responded with rage to her protest of the game’s misogyny. Over 20,000 primarily negative comments were left response to her otherwise commonplace review, and a petition was started on www.change.org for her to be fired as a reviewer (Parfitt, 2013).
The third level of sexist oppression is the game’s representation of females in the sex industry. The game depicts women as (often gladly) choosing to engage in live “sexcam” websites, pornography, stripping, and prostitution (Feministborgia, 2013). Within several available strip club scenes, male players are encouraged to break the “no touching” rule and fondle the women’s private areas. If the player manages to accomplish this without being caught by the club security, the game designers ensure that the strippers will respond positively and might even offer to meet the player later for free sex (Feministborgia, 2013). Often throughout the course of their missions, players are offered the opportunity to solicit prostitutes, chose a sex act from a menu, watch the virtual sex, and then choose whether or not to murder the women to regain their money. Murder options include beating, running over victims a car, throwing a grenade, shooting, using a hatchet, etc. Players’ points go up for having sex with a prostitute, although not for murdering her (Cook, 2014). The game also contains countless crude, demeaning, and violent references to women from billboard advertisements to “entertainment,” including a (male) talk show host recommending a husband “drown” his non-submissive wife and a discussion on how women “enjoy” having their sternums crushed during sex (Feministborgia, 2013).
Patriarchy Silences Women
Some reviewers have dismissed feminist critiques of Grand Theft Auto V by noting that the game depicts violence to male and female characters alike. In the words of one British reviewer: “The game’s treatment of women – every female in the game exists solely to be sneered, leered or laughed at – is a real concern until you realise that it applies to the male characters as well” (Edge, 2013). What this and similar reviewers fail to realize is that sexist oppression is not only exerted through presence but also through absence. The lack of positive images can be just as damaging as the presence of negative ones. There is a conspicuous absence of women portrayed in healthy and varied roles: friend, boss, professional, intellectual, artist, etc. Women are not shown as being able to interact with men in nonsexual ways with the exception of a few weak family members who cause familial strife. The women in Grand Theft Auto are not shown to be strong, savvy, capable, or conscientious. Why then is this game so popular? Simple: Grand Theft Auto is a product and a perpetrator of patriarchy, a prevailing cultural system of male dominance. Patriarchal systems allow sexist oppression to flourish with impunity. Patriarchy has many components and manifestations, but author Allen Johnson summarizes it well:
Above all, patriarchal culture is about the core value of control and domination in almost every area of human existence. … To have power over and to be prepared to use it are defined culturally as good and desirable (and characteristically “masculine”, and to lack such power or to be reluctant to use it is seen as weak if not contemptible (and characteristically “feminine”) (2013, p. 334).
Real Life Victims
There are countless examples of women who have been harmed by the sexist oppression. The consistent pay gap between women and men in the United States is just one such significant example. Yet, in light of Grand Theft Auto V’s extensive content regarding the sex industry, it seems prudent for this paper to focus on some of the ugly truths about women in the sex industry. The majority of women in the sex industry have experienced some form of sexual abuse in their past (Farley, 2012). Many feel that they have no other viable income options and maintain that they are trapped into the industry due to circumstances. Most are under the control of a pimp (Farley, 2012), the former occupation of the main character in Grand Theft Auto V. “Pimp” is a common term for what the law terms “trafficker” as in a perpetrator of human trafficking. The Trafficking Victims Protection Act of 2000 established that a person involved in the sex industry due to force, fraud, or coercion is a victim of commercial sexual exploitation or human trafficking, the fastest growing crime in the world today (United States Department of State, 2014). The International Labour Organization estimates that the majority of trafficking situations are labor trafficking, but also gives a best guess that sex trafficking generates a much greater profit than labor trafficking, garnering $99 out of $150 billion dollars gained from this illegal industry (2014). Moreover, victims are usually exploited in multiple forms within the sex industry. For example, a girl or woman who is forced into prostitution is often also filmed for the production of pornography.
Within the United States, most women entered the sex industry when they were minors. Sex traffickers (or “pimps”) usually prey on the most vulnerable: homeless runaways, “throwaways,” and very young children. The average age at which girls are first manipulated and forced into prostitution is a mere 12-14 years old (United States Department of Justice).  Although no one knows the true scale of sex trafficking in the United States, the Federal Bureau of Investigation has declared child sex trafficking a significant crime and maintains ongoing investigations through its Innocence Lost Task Force. In a 3-day operation in 2014, the FBI rescued 168 American children from sex trafficking and arrested 281 traffickers (Federal Bureau of Investigation, 2014). Once these young people turn eighteen, they suffer from the myth that prostitution is a “choice” and a “job” and receive jail time instead of victim services.
 During their exploitation, victims repeatedly undergo severe mental and physical trauma at the hands of their traffickers as well as their buyers, experiencing severe violence, humiliation, PTSD, sexually transmitted diseases, forced abortions, and other atrocities (Lloyd, 2011). A special report by the Child Welfare Council (CWC) found that “68 percent of victims of Commercial Exploitation of Children suffered from chronic health problems and post-traumatic stress disorder and likened the experience of victims to experiences of ‘hostages, prisoners of war, or concentration camp inmates.” The reality of sex trafficking victims is a sharp contrast to the women portrayed in Grand Theft Auto V. Sex trafficking survivor, major activist, and aftercare service provider Rachel Lloyd wisely ties sexual exploitation back into patriarchy:
Commercial sexual exploitation and trafficking are part of the continuum of gender-based violence, not a separate issue. How we view the rights of women and girls, (again particularly those who we view as “less than” based on race and class or some predetermined idea of their “purity”, blamelessness etc.) is absolutely part of the problem when it comes to commercial sexual exploitation and trafficking (2015).
A More Just Version of Grand Theft Auto V
            What would it take to create a more just version of Grand Theft Auto V? Is it possible, or should gamers boycott the franchise altogether? Social commentator Jackson Katz maintains that violence against women is not a women’s issue but a men’s issue, claiming that men’s actions towards women reveal more about men than they do about women (2013). In this vein, New York Times journalist Chris Suellentrop noted the rampant sexism in Grand Theft Auto V and had the chance to lightly query the co-founder of Rockstar games, the franchise creator:
When I asked Mr. Houser if he had thought about the portrayal of women in Rockstar’s games, he said, “Seemingly not as much as I should have.” He added: “These three guys fit with the story we wanted to tell. It would be hard to take one of them and replace him — I mean, I suppose we could have done it, early enough on — with a female character” (2013).
Mr. Houser’s response not only ignores the sexist oppression existing in his games but also denies any social responsibility to fixing the problems. His comments are a confirmation of Katz’s conclusion:
In spite of significant social change in recent decades, men continue to grow up with, and are socialized into, a deeply misogynistic, male-dominated culture, where violence against women—from the subtle to the homicidal—is disturbingly common. It’s normal. And precisely because the mistreatment of women is such a pervasive characteristic of our patriarchal culture, most men, to a greater or lesser extent, have played a role in its perpetuation (2013, p. 342).
In Grand Theft Auto V, men are literally playing a role in the perpetuation of violence against women. A more just version of this game would first create smart, capable, and confident female characters embodying a variety of female experiences. Women would be presented in relational roles that are not primarily sexual or subordinate. Although the depiction of sexist oppression in the game does often echo the unfortunate realities of this world, a more just version would also include emotional, mental, and physical consequences for sexist actions such as legal action, retribution, and—most importantly—decreased capacity for human connectedness. Finally, the game currently presents choices of whether or not to negatively engage with women in the sex industry. It should include choices of positively engaging with women such as befriending them without sexual contact, asking their advice or opinions, or even ascertaining whether or not they are under the control of a trafficker. In these ways, Grand Theft Auto V could move our culture towards a more egalitarian interaction between genders instead of normalizing sexist oppression.


References
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November 15, 2014

Which man are you?

Dropping Keys
by Hafiz

The small man
builds cages for everyone
he knows.
While the sage,
who has to duck his head
when the moon is low,
keeps dropping keys all night long
for the beautiful,
rowdy
prisoners.


August 13, 2014

Thoughts

On Aspiration

Per usual, today's to-do list began over-ambitiously and became completely overthrown with new, immediate requests. Unexpectedly, I found myself in Vons with only two items to purchase and an "Express Lane" that was dawdling all the way into the food aisles. On the premise that it is better to be behind one person who has a truckload of groceries than ten people with a handful, I stationed myself resignedly behind a transaction in the works and a middle-aged blonde who was busily unloading towers of frozen food boxes. All of a sudden, the blonde cheerily offered, "Would you like to go ahead of me?" and graciously affirmed my obvious relief. As I left the store, my mood was disproportionately lighter thanks to my lucky -- and kind -- break. Emerging into the sun, I thought, I want to be that kind of person! Someone who is naturally  helpful in small, undramatic ways. If I set my mind to it, it could grow into an unconscious habit. Belatedly, it occurred that the sole reason I was in Vons was to buy a gift card for people in need whom I had met fifteen minutes earlier while at the post office sending out gifts. ... It's a surreal moment when you realize you have somehow (slowly? surely?) become the type of person you always wanted to be, at least for one day.


On Bad Choices

Due to my unusual hobbies, I have spent a substantial chunk of emotional energy the past year being angry with people who "blame the victim". The situation that gets me the most is when people reason (or fail to reason) that somehow a "prostitute" is responsible for her circumstances, not the man who sexually abused her when she was young, the trafficker/pimp who controls her through terror and mind games, or the "customers" who purchase her body. Somehow, she is purportedly responsible for her circumstances because she made "bad choices". Since I know a little bit about how young people usually end up in prostitution, I look at her situation and think If all she knows is abuse disguised as love, broken relationships, and poverty; if she mentally, emotionally, and physically controlled by someone who is violent and vicious; if she does not have anyone to come rescue her and nowhere to go if she left -- then how can she have the freedom to make a choice? And somewhere in my anger about prejudice towards the oppressed, I became prejudiced towards people who are ignorant of the oppressed. 

Mental breakthrough: People certainly need to be held accountable for their choices, but sometimes they are not able to make a healthy choice. Unconsciously, I often hold people to the standard of my life experience when deciding whether or not they had the ability to make a healthy choice. That's just plain silly. Also, remarkably self-centered. And certainly unprofitable. It's easy for me to see that many women who are prostituted do not have the freedom to decide to leave. It took a bit longer to realize that the person who is condemning victims of sex trafficking may not have enough knowledge of the situation to prompt a compassionate response. So now when I find myself frustrated with people's choices, I ask myself if they have the ability, including knowledge, to make a healthy choice. This practice has considerably lessened my private diagnoses of "self-satisfied nincompoop".



On Expectations

Healthy people usually make healthy choices. Unhealthy people usually make unhealthy choices. A person's mental, physical, and emotional states of health are partially a result of their choices and partially a result of other's choices and sometimes a result of nature freakishly intervening. Sounds pretty straightforward, right? Then why do we keep expecting sick people to make healthy choices? Someone whose spouse abruptly ran off is probably doing well just showing up to work, so don't expect him to be able to be generous or a good listener for awhile. And why do we think that a healthy choice for a sick person looks identical to the choices for healthy people? Someone with a broken leg will only hurt it further if he tries to simply walk on it with no cast or crutches. The under the table job for someone with a criminal record might be the only way for him to quit dealing. Life is messy. Are we willing to be the support for hurting people? If not, then it is entirely unjust for us to expect them to behave as if they were well. (See thoughts above on ability before responsibility.)



On Timeliness

Actually, I have nothing constructive to say on this topic, as I appear to be running late for yet another engagement. (See opening sentences of "On Aspiration".)


May 22, 2014

The One

Today marked a first in my research on human trafficking. Today I read about a victim who shares my name.

The quota was $1,000 a night.

That's how much Katie Rhoades, then 19, was forced to make having sex with men for money. Every night. For three years.

"If you got good at manipulation, you didn't have to turn as many tricks," said Rhoades, adding that beatings and emotional abuse befell the women who did not obey the sex trafficker's commands or bring in the $1,000. "If you don't think there is an out, you learn to survive within it."

In 2002, she was a homeless, drug-addicted stripper barely out of high school when the pimp and his "bottom girl" -- the one responsible for luring girls and women, training them, and enforcing the "rules" -- trapped her with promises of a better and more glamorous life as their recording studio production assistant. Instead, 72 hours after she moved from Portland to San Francisco with them, she was held captive and forced to strip and have sex with men for money.

(More details about this period have been omitted from my reposting. You can read the original story here and more about her new advocacy group here.)

Eventually, she was able to escape and get help from a former family physican to enroll in a drug rehabilitation program miles away in Minnesota. She got clean, earned both her undergraduate and graduate degrees in social work and now runs a victims' advocacy group, Healing Action. She also helps train hotel staff to recognize sexual trafficking.

Not only does this woman, roughly my age, share my  name, but she earned her MSW (I start mid-August) and is actively campaigning against trafficking. We have similar outcomes from drastically different paths.

Those of us in aid work and social services often have to focus on "the one". In other words, the cause we care about is often too complex and overwhelming for us to continually think about as a whole. Instead, we must focus on the individuals affected. In them we see change and healing and growth. Today "the one" hit close to home.

May 9, 2014

The times, they are a-changing

In the past 45 days I...

Exchanged vows (i.e. got hitched)
Moved across the county
Completed Sexual Assault Crisis Counselor training
Restarted SAT tutoring
Represented Hope Rising at several community events

At the end of May, I will be traveling to Thailand as the co-leader of the Hands that Heal training in partnership with Hope Rising and Zoe International.

I like being an abolitionist. Thanks, husband, for being the primary donor to this worthy (and charming!) cause.




February 23, 2014

Better someone else...


I have strange hobbies. One of them is reading extensively about human trafficking and the brokenness of the human condition that contributes to it. This past week I have absorbed several more books as I continue to learn about this human rights crisis. The following except from the conclusion of The Natashas: Inside the New Global Sex Trade by Victor Malarek manages to succinctly describe our inability to "love our neighbor as we love ourself."



Government bureaucrats lament that their nations lack an adequate legal framework to tackle the problem, with the implication that their intentions are thwarted by inadequate laws. Well, let's get one thing straight. Assault is assault. Confinement is confinement. Rape is rape. And since the sanctions for dealing with these egregious offences already exist in every law in every nation on the planet, nothing prevents them from prosecuting traffickers under their own criminal codes.

With few exceptions, most governments and police forces view trafficking in human beings as a far less serious crime than trafficking in guns or drugs. Most approach it primarily as an illegal immigration issue, and this may have something to do with unspoken biases. Better someone else's daughters, the thinking goes; at least whoever's frequenting them isn't out raping our own. Such views rear their ugly heads not only in back-room whispers but also in public debates by people who should know better. How can we ever expect to stem this odious trade if we think it is acceptable to buy, sell and rape any human being?

Other social biases also come into play. In the minds of most people, these women are prostitutes who have willingly chosen their route. Why should we give a damn? As heartless as it sounds, this thinking is ingrained in the minds of most cops on the beat. They steadfastly believe that virtually any woman who accepts money for sex must have entered "the world's oldest profession" with eyes wide open. They can't fathom that anyone could be so naive as to fall for the promise of "real jobs" in far-off foreign lands. As a result, the cops on the front lines rarely look beyond the mascara and the stiletto heels, and the authorities seldom investigate whether the women were abducted, tricked, or coerced. First and foremost, trafficking is not an illegal migration issue; it is violation of human rights.



Victor Malarek is one of many voices helping to speak against the lie that people are defined by their circumstances and experiences. Reader, your job and your role are not your identity. I am more than the sum of my actions. For victims of sex trafficking, it is especially devastating when all of society is echoing the lies told to them by their pimps, "clients", and previous abusers: you are a prostitute. A slut. A whore. You are worth only what twenty minutes of abuse can earn. You are unworthy of love or respect. You deserve your suffering. These are evil lies, but what disturbs me even more is that people seem more inclined to clutch or spit these lies when viewing minority groups. Whether it is Cambodian women who are trafficked into Thailand or Moldovian women into Italy or Thai women into America or even foster care children in Los Angeles--it seems that there is always a group of people to whom it is more "acceptable" that fate be cruel and ruthless. 

Our capacity for prejudice is astonishing, but the good news is that the Gospel counters with greater astonishment. We are called to regard those who suffer as people with equal value to us. Even more astonishingly, God tells us to give them preference. To respond to their plight as if it is Christ Himself who suffers. To love that much is incomprehensible, but I am walking in that direction.

February 1, 2014

If --> Then





These notes from a training on working with survivors of human trafficking are helpful in examining how we approach our faith.



Christians often treat their faith as transaction: if --> then. If God loves me, then He will protect me (and so on and so forth). Present faith as transformational, not transactional. Never make promises on God's behalf. 

Transformation is a disruptive force which seeks to disturb the status quo with the aim of aligning lives and communities to a higher order of love that is shown in the Gospel as God’s rules of love.  Soul Care

We also establish transactional relationships with each other. Attend this Bible study, and we we will give you attention and guidance. We will pray for you but expect you to react in a certain way. (Note that victims are often pleasers who may feel the need to appease your faith.)