May 13, 2014

Another quote from a yoga teacher

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"Balance is not about not moving. It's about being flexible when change comes." ~ Hazel Patterson

Isn't this the opposite of how us organized, Western, choice-laden types think about balance? Whenever anyone talks about the importance of balancing one's life (work, home, community, faith, etc.), I always envision creating the perfect schedule each week with precisely allotted times for each type of activity. The formula for deciding how much time to give each person and endeavor has remained a frustrating and elusive mystery. 

Tonight balancing on one foot in tree pose, I imagined the freedom of adjusting and adapting to my circumstances instead of trying to plan them (i.e. control them) beforehand. Perhaps this is what people are trying to convey when they glibly spout: "Expect the unexpected!" 

Groceries wilt in the fridge, Craigslist doesn't actually list every apartment available, husbands snore*, and traffic is more than a default excuse for tardiness. Little plans change frequently and life plans change more often than I would like. Healthy balance can look like swaying, toes spread wide, rib cage lifted, and hands pressed gently.


*Disclaimer: the mild and inconsistent sounds emanating from my model are not to be construed as the source material for this example.

May 9, 2014

The times, they are a-changing

In the past 45 days I...

Exchanged vows (i.e. got hitched)
Moved across the county
Completed Sexual Assault Crisis Counselor training
Restarted SAT tutoring
Represented Hope Rising at several community events

At the end of May, I will be traveling to Thailand as the co-leader of the Hands that Heal training in partnership with Hope Rising and Zoe International.

I like being an abolitionist. Thanks, husband, for being the primary donor to this worthy (and charming!) cause.




March 25, 2014

Dance with your nose up!

Well, folks, I'm getting hitched in eleven days. That's right. You didn't think I disappeared from the blogging world just to paint my nails and ingest unsulfered mango, did you? I've been trudging away discarding excess silverware and unworn skirts in order to cram my dowry into my fiancee's abode. In honor of my impending nuptials, today I am sharing 3.5 minutes of two of my favorite things: Vince Guaraldi (aka composer of the Charlie Brown music) and interactive live music with elders. According to Ben, the first gift I gave him was a compilation of Vince Guaraldi songs. Sorta like a modern version of a mixed tape, except that I was more concerned with improving his quality of life than with making a move. Hope this snippet does the same for you!

February 23, 2014

Better someone else...


I have strange hobbies. One of them is reading extensively about human trafficking and the brokenness of the human condition that contributes to it. This past week I have absorbed several more books as I continue to learn about this human rights crisis. The following except from the conclusion of The Natashas: Inside the New Global Sex Trade by Victor Malarek manages to succinctly describe our inability to "love our neighbor as we love ourself."



Government bureaucrats lament that their nations lack an adequate legal framework to tackle the problem, with the implication that their intentions are thwarted by inadequate laws. Well, let's get one thing straight. Assault is assault. Confinement is confinement. Rape is rape. And since the sanctions for dealing with these egregious offences already exist in every law in every nation on the planet, nothing prevents them from prosecuting traffickers under their own criminal codes.

With few exceptions, most governments and police forces view trafficking in human beings as a far less serious crime than trafficking in guns or drugs. Most approach it primarily as an illegal immigration issue, and this may have something to do with unspoken biases. Better someone else's daughters, the thinking goes; at least whoever's frequenting them isn't out raping our own. Such views rear their ugly heads not only in back-room whispers but also in public debates by people who should know better. How can we ever expect to stem this odious trade if we think it is acceptable to buy, sell and rape any human being?

Other social biases also come into play. In the minds of most people, these women are prostitutes who have willingly chosen their route. Why should we give a damn? As heartless as it sounds, this thinking is ingrained in the minds of most cops on the beat. They steadfastly believe that virtually any woman who accepts money for sex must have entered "the world's oldest profession" with eyes wide open. They can't fathom that anyone could be so naive as to fall for the promise of "real jobs" in far-off foreign lands. As a result, the cops on the front lines rarely look beyond the mascara and the stiletto heels, and the authorities seldom investigate whether the women were abducted, tricked, or coerced. First and foremost, trafficking is not an illegal migration issue; it is violation of human rights.



Victor Malarek is one of many voices helping to speak against the lie that people are defined by their circumstances and experiences. Reader, your job and your role are not your identity. I am more than the sum of my actions. For victims of sex trafficking, it is especially devastating when all of society is echoing the lies told to them by their pimps, "clients", and previous abusers: you are a prostitute. A slut. A whore. You are worth only what twenty minutes of abuse can earn. You are unworthy of love or respect. You deserve your suffering. These are evil lies, but what disturbs me even more is that people seem more inclined to clutch or spit these lies when viewing minority groups. Whether it is Cambodian women who are trafficked into Thailand or Moldovian women into Italy or Thai women into America or even foster care children in Los Angeles--it seems that there is always a group of people to whom it is more "acceptable" that fate be cruel and ruthless. 

Our capacity for prejudice is astonishing, but the good news is that the Gospel counters with greater astonishment. We are called to regard those who suffer as people with equal value to us. Even more astonishingly, God tells us to give them preference. To respond to their plight as if it is Christ Himself who suffers. To love that much is incomprehensible, but I am walking in that direction.

February 1, 2014

If --> Then





These notes from a training on working with survivors of human trafficking are helpful in examining how we approach our faith.



Christians often treat their faith as transaction: if --> then. If God loves me, then He will protect me (and so on and so forth). Present faith as transformational, not transactional. Never make promises on God's behalf. 

Transformation is a disruptive force which seeks to disturb the status quo with the aim of aligning lives and communities to a higher order of love that is shown in the Gospel as God’s rules of love.  Soul Care

We also establish transactional relationships with each other. Attend this Bible study, and we we will give you attention and guidance. We will pray for you but expect you to react in a certain way. (Note that victims are often pleasers who may feel the need to appease your faith.)